Toddler Tantrums: How Early Childhood Educators Handle Big Emotions

If you’ve ever experienced a toddler tantrum, you know how intense those big feelings can be. Kicking, crying, and frustration are all part of early childhood—but they can be overwhelming for parents and children alike.

At Tomlin Prep Academy, we understand that tantrums aren’t “bad behavior”—they’re a normal part of growing up. Toddlers are still learning how to manage emotions, communicate needs, and navigate their independence. Our teachers are trained to support children through these moments with patience, understanding, and proven strategies.

Here’s how early childhood educators handle big emotions in a healthy, supportive way:

👂 1. Stay Calm and Listen

Children look to adults for cues. When teachers respond with calm voices and steady body language, toddlers feel safer and more secure. A calm presence helps de-escalate the situation.

🗣️ 2. Validate Feelings

Instead of dismissing or ignoring a child’s emotions, teachers acknowledge them:“I see you’re upset because it’s time to clean up. That’s hard.”This shows children that their feelings are understood, even if their behavior needs guidance.

🎨 3. Offer Choices and Redirection

Giving toddlers small choices—like which toy to clean up first—helps them feel a sense of control. Redirection to a new activity also shifts focus and reduces frustration.

💡 4. Teach Simple Coping Skills

Teachers introduce age-appropriate strategies like deep breaths, quiet corners, or squeezing a soft toy. These tools empower children to calm themselves over time.

❤️ 5. Model Positive Behavior

By using kind words, patience, and empathy, educators show toddlers how to express emotions in healthier ways. Children learn best through examples.

Why It Matters

Handling tantrums with care teaches toddlers that emotions are normal and manageable. Over time, children build self-regulation skills that will help them in school, friendships, and everyday life.

At Tomlin Prep Academy, we don’t just manage behavior—we nurture emotional growth, helping every child feel seen, heard, and supported.

📞 Call us today at 816-785-7878 or schedule a tour here: https://www.tomlinacademy.net/schedule-a-tour