Separation Anxiety: What’s Normal and How to Support Your Child

Starting daycare or school can bring big feelings — not just for children, but for parents too. One of the most common challenges families face is separation anxiety. It’s completely normal for young children to feel upset when saying goodbye, but with the right support, they can learn to feel safe, confident, and excited about their new environment.

Understanding Separation Anxiety

Separation anxiety often appears between 6 months and 3 years of age, though children of different ages can experience it too. It happens because children are still learning that when a parent leaves, they’ll always come back.

Signs of separation anxiety can include:

• Crying, clinging, or tantrums at drop-off

• Refusing to let go of a parent’s hand

• Worry or sadness when anticipating separation

  
  

While these behaviors may feel overwhelming, they are a natural part of your child’s emotional development.

What’s Normal?

A certain level of separation anxiety is expected and even healthy — it shows that your child has formed strong bonds of love and trust. Most children outgrow intense separation worries as they gain confidence and familiarity with their routine.

How to Support Your Child Through It

1. Practice Short Separations

Start by leaving your child with a trusted caregiver for brief periods. Gradually extend the time so your child learns that you always return.

2. Create a Goodbye Ritual

A hug, a high five, or a special phrase can help your child know what to expect. Keep goodbyes short and consistent to avoid prolonging distress.

3. Stay Calm and Reassuring

Children often mirror their parents’ emotions. When you appear confident, it reassures your child that they are safe.

4. Offer Comfort Items

A small stuffed animal, blanket, or family photo can provide reassurance and familiarity in a new setting.

5. Build Trust With Teachers

Introduce your child to their caregivers and encourage bonding. When children feel comfortable with their teachers, they gain a sense of security that helps ease separation worries.

The Good News

Separation anxiety is temporary. With love, patience, and support, children learn resilience and confidence that will serve them well throughout life.

🌟 At Tomlin Prep Academy, our caring teachers are experienced in supporting children through transitions. We work closely with families to make every child feel safe, loved, and ready to learn.

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